The other day one of my colleague has started to cover her head as she was not used to earlier and she remained a hot topic around the campus why and how it’s happened? Anyhow people have passed a lot of comments and might be this bombardment within days she was back to her own, giving a headline that‘’I don’t want to look like a maid, while covering my head’’….and received applause from every corner, though one lady who practises headscarf tried to raise her voice to defend but who cares to listen minorities?
In our neighbours, Turkish women are living and I just wonder that when they come to open main gate or hanging some stuff in terrace, covered from head to toe, but they don’t look like maids…
During university days though we had hell of fights with Iranian girls but always got jealous of their beauty and admired their tag, hijab.
(No debate is required issue related to hijab in Turkey and what makes Iranian girls to wear hijab all time.)
But we don’t have any recognition or carrying any tag and falls here and there, quoting rather interperating religion in different perspective and adjusting it to suit our needs. We are living in a society where cultural and now global or co operative’s environment is affecting our nerves more than anything else. We are suffering identity crisis I think so, if not you but I am.
Days gone, when girls clad in veil or burqa were victamized as all ill stories linked to them. Now veil has been transformed into another shape but it is being practised in few families still; however surrounding is glamorised day by day.
Within Islam, the issue of veiling is a subject for considerable debate. Some Islamic experts say the text is open to interpretations, which has accounted for the diversity of veiling traditions across the Islamic world.(I don’t want to go any diverse discuusion,just my concern is that why cant I adopt it ?)
Everyone knows that what Quran says, compulsory to follow it but why I m writing instead to take it just got trapped into society’s norms, scared what people will say? How would I look? How much I can care of its dignity? Leaving most of my habits cos people expecting you just as saint, how cruel they are? How would I bear it in hot weather (it’s very true that one who wears hijab first question other ask from her, don’t you feel uncomfortable in such weather?)Would I encourage at workplace or push to the wall? Long list of fears
How weak I am, slave of so many things, giving hell of reasoning not to wear it, trying to justify myself. May Allah strengthen my faith and give me courage…Ameeen
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Amazing how similar your inner debate is to any faithful girl trying to decide to obey the call to cover! I found your blog on a “google search” - I hope you don’t mind me writing you. Make good choices, and remember the end rather than dwell on the present surroundings which will fade away and are not nearly as important, in the end.
Yaaay for Ashely! You know the right thing to be done, just do it!
These girls who go out without hijab… Won’t they feel guilty the day they will get married? Don’t they feel being unfair to the guy they will get married to?
Hijab has a lots of psychological implications. Its not “just an Islamic law”. Every girl knows the bittersweet feeling of being looked at by a stranger. Of course, the sweet part is to be saved for the husband. Bitter part should take over.
If i wanna wear Hijab and someone has got a problem with it, then they may surely mind their own Damn business, Its none oftheir business, I aint asking you to wear it for me, Am i ? I can very well do whatever i wanna do, and need not think about this cruel world and its people ……. !!!!!
P H E W
I perticularly loved the last pessage as one day, I myself planning to wear hijab just not brave enough…maybe one day I love my god enough to quit caring about other people views…
I winced after seeing what I’ve written in previous comment…my grammar and spelling can make any english teacher weep..so I hope you’re not an Englisg teacher
at the end it is between you and God + I don’t think if you are doing things right, your salvation will hang only on that matter
@Lisam..welcome to my blog and really appreaciate your point of view..may Allah too grant me strong FAITH..ameen
@Stringer….I do practise Hijab but partially,when its desperatley required otherwise not,diplomatic approach
@Maryam..oh you great rather courageous lady
@Lubna…agreed!
@Amna…welcome dear….I think one day and very soon Allah will take me out from this trouble…inshallah
A dilemma in today’s world. We re surrounded by two types of people either too extremist or too liberal, too bold or too shy. Even though Islam favors the mid path.
This maid theory was shocking … o_O whether clad in proper abayas and veil or just hijabified, girls look so elegant masha allah
BTW hijab is just head covering without a niqab, correct me if I’m wrong.
@Asma
yup..hijab means covering head just!
Hey, thanks for leaving a comment on my blog. And women who say you cannot look/be fashionable with hijab have no imagination!
There’s more freedom in hijab than one would think possible. For anyone who says they look like a maid in hijab…direct them to a facebook group called “Hijabi fashionistas unite” and make them look at all the uploaded pictures of hijabi women there. Plus its a great place for struggling hijabi muslimahs as well. There’s tons of advice and loads of ways explained on how to wear different kinds of hijabs etc.
Asalam o alaikum
I thought like you do. There was so much turmoil, that I was up at nights, thinking and contemplating. Then I started wearing the hijab, two years ago, the turmoil remained. I’ve recently started the abaya and the niqaab. You know what, the turmoil remains and I will tell you why. Islam is a continuous struggle. You can’t justify your sins. You think about Allah(swt) and Hid Majesty, and you’re dumbfounded. Nothing remains in front of His Greatness. It’s our love for Him that we need to foster within our hearts, once that comes in, everything else will just follow.
May Allah(swt) guide you.
I keep thinking about the same thing over & over again - my mom started hijab a couple of years back & a couple of my cousins - and while I know it wouldnt be difficult adopting it here, somehow I havent found teh courage to do so. mostly cause of the whole pkg that is supposed to turn me into an angel as soon as I start wearing hijab - I dont want people going around saying oh Hijab karti hai aur sath yeh karti hai kinda stuff.
A while back I tried & got hell from loads of people critising my working in a TV channel while wearing hijab.
~sigh~
I guess, seriously, it is all about getting enough guts to really stand your own ground on what you believe to be correct.
Ameen,
@asma,
i think hijab is about segregation between mehram and na mehram, and that includes face as well.
Faraz, I dont think so
i do,

so what do u think what is included in hijab ,precisely ? does it mean covering the head only ?
Faraz: I believe you’re confusing niqaab and hijab. Hijab means covering your hair, and neck, wearing loose, long sleeved clothes and shalwars/trousers that are below the ankle. The attire is exactly like what is required of women while praying.
Whether you observe hijab or not the distinction between mehram and na mehram remains. Women have to follow the dictates of mehram/na mehram either way.
The problem in our society is that women don’t follow it. By observing hijab, a female is stating so many things and one of them being that she is letting the world (men in general) know that she practices the disctinction between a mehram and na mehram.
Thanksum extiinct
saved the long converse on my behalf <3
extinct , I believe you are confusing hijab and satar. What you have described as Hijab , *I think* , it falls under the category of ‘Satar’. Hijab means niqaab, Hijab should be observed while interacting with na-mehram. While Satar, is the normal clothing requirement.
faraz, extiinct’s definition of Hijab and Niqaab is absolutely correct. Plz go through details here … rest laters
Extinct’s defination rather logical explanation is quite enough to entertain Faraz confusion regarding hijab or niqab.
Moreover,islamic scholars present more than 2 school of thoughts about hijab in different perspective.But we generally follow the prime one,the way we cover ourselves while offering prayer.
@Asma thanks for link